“We’re not photogenic.” I hear this all the time, and I want to be really direct with you: that’s almost never true. What’s actually happening is that people don’t know how to act in front of a camera, which is a completely different thing – and something I can help with.
The couples who look the most natural in photos aren’t the ones who are the most conventionally attractive or the most experienced with being photographed. They’re the ones who stopped trying to pose and just started being together. That’s what I’m here to help you do.
Prompts, not poses
My job isn’t to put you in a stiff pose and tell you to smile. My job is to give you something to do together so the camera catches a real moment. I’ll ask you to walk toward me and tell each other something you love, or whisper something in their ear, or just wander and forget I’m there.
Real laughter, a genuine smile, a quiet moment where you’re leaning into each other – that’s what we’re after. It doesn’t come from a pose, it comes from connection. And connection is something I can actually prompt. If you want to see some of the specific prompts I use, check out this post: 5 Prompts I Use to Get Real Smiles From Every Couple →
Movement helps more than you’d think
Standing completely still in front of a camera is hard for most people. It’s unnatural and it tends to make everyone look stiff. Movement is the fix. Walking, spinning, sitting down and getting back up, dancing around a little – when you’re in motion, you’re thinking about the movement instead of the camera, and your whole body relaxes.
Some of the best photos happen in the in-between moments – when someone trips a little, or laughs at something I said, or glances over mid-walk. Those are real, and they’re beautiful. I’m always watching for them.
Focus on each other, not the camera
This sounds simple but it genuinely changes everything. When you’re focused on your person – really looking at them, touching their face, adjusting their collar, noticing something about them – you stop performing. I fade into the background. The photos stop looking like photos and start looking like moments.
I’ll remind you of this during your session, but you can start practicing now. Next time you’re together, really look at each other for a second – not a quick glance, actually look. That’s the energy we’re going for.
Your engagement session is practice for your wedding day
This is one of the biggest reasons I love engagement sessions. It’s not just about getting photos. It’s about learning how to be in front of a camera together so that by the time your wedding day comes, you already know what it feels like to work with me. You know my style, I know yours, and the whole thing is a lot more relaxed.
Couples who did an engagement session with me before their wedding have told me they felt so much more comfortable when it mattered most. It genuinely shows in the photos. If you’re on the fence about whether a session is worth it, this post breaks down exactly why →
If you’re already a little anxious about being photographed, booking an engagement session is the single best thing you can do.
A few things that help on the day
Give yourself time to warm up. The first ten minutes of any session are always the most awkward – it always gets easier, and that’s completely normal. Don’t judge how things are going by the first few frames.
Talk to each other during the session, not about posing but about anything. What you did this week, a funny memory, something you’re looking forward to. Conversation naturally animates your face and relaxes your body in a way that nothing else really does.
And trust me to guide you. You don’t have to know what to do – that’s my job. Just show up, be together, and let me handle the rest. For even more on what to expect, check out: What to Expect from Your Photoshoot: Tips for Relaxed, Candid Photos →
Ready to feel comfortable in front of the camera? I’d love to show you how.
